Introverts are known to be anti-social. We appear that way, yes. A friend even asked if we can be “trained” in dealing with crowds. I believe to some extent, yes. When it goes down to business and work, we socialize according to the demands of the task/s at hand. But at the end of the day, we crave solitude. We need to recharge ourselves in our haven of peace, books, movies, series or whatever solo activity we enjoy.
Although we can be trained for work that needs to deal with people at times, we struggle more to get used to new people compared to extroverts. We do it out of duty for the most part.
Moreover, being an introvert is a matter of preference. While we can deal with groups if we have to, our preference still lies in the comfort of a few close friends. I admit, crowds really drain my energy. Instead of going to parties with half the people strangers to me, I’d rather stay at home and read books or watch anime or play computer games. Perhaps chit-chat with a friend and ask them how they’re doing. I can also opt to meet with a friend I haven’t seen in a while or a few close ones for dinner or coffee; just catching up.
I admit that loneliness seeps in sometimes. But I can deal with that. Better to feel lonely at times than lost in a sea of people. Meeting new people is fun but please spare us the crowd. A few ones at a time is good, thank you very much.
So now you know that being an introvert is not something that should be fixed. It’s a preference we’re born in. We can adapt to groups and get along well with people, but at the end of the day, we prefer peace. Our preference stays the same. We recharge our reserves through solo activities or time with a few loved ones. On a personal level, we would rather be with a few people, preferably close friends. That’s just who we are.
