Time, a playful character

I went up to our 2^nd floor view deck to turn over my pillow that I “soaked” under the sun. I suddenly caught a glimpse of the sky through the tinted glass of sister’s old room. Wow. It transported me back in time. I suddenly thought, “How many years had passed since that day, since those days? So many things had changed. I’m no longer 14 or 15. I’m 21!” I just realized how fast time flew by. It seems only yesterday that I was contemplating about my feelings for someone. Now, that person is not as significant as before… Time can do almost anything with one’s life! I suddenly felt the need to pause time. To slow down and let me assess things. Day by day, it feels the same but when I look back now, a lot had changed. A lot had happened. I looked at the church in front of our house and remembered the days when it was not yet built. The place was an open lot and I learned how to ride a bike there. I looked back at the closed windows & remembered the countless times I played with sister there. Now she’s already married and has a baby! I looked down at the mosaic-square design of the tiles on our view deck floor. I remembered the old house and how it was broken down and renovated. The place was so dusty and we had to jam ourselves in one room while the house was being fixed. I remembered haunting the “ruins” of the house at night when the workers had gone while imagining what it would look like when it’s done. Looking so far back, a lot did change and happen. I didn’t notice it before because I was busy moving forward all the time. Now I have time for myself because I’m waiting for calls from offices I plan to work for. I realized I’m really not a kid anymore. I didn’t really reflect or thought about me getting older. I wonder what my kid me and present me talk about if they’ll meet? It’s curious! I also realized that trees that I rarely notice & rather took for granted slapped me the knowledge of how many years had already passed. I stood on a part of the yard where I know I can see a patch of the sky without contact from the sun. It’s a cool & shady place because it has lots of plants. The trees there as I had known them were not enough to cover that patch of sky. I stood there again this afternoon & to my surprise I can no longer see the sky. Branches & leaves of trees have woven themselves together & covered the sky. I realized how big they’ve grown! Trees grow gradually thus I don’t really notice their progress so it took me by surprise when I realize they’ve really grown tall & big. So much time has passed since I lazed around… Time is indeed very playful! It catches you unawares!

I wrote this quite a long time ago but I decided I want to include it here. I have other old writings I want to publish here soon. :)

Of love and compromise

"It's not always rainbows and butterflies 
It's compromise that moves us along.." - Maroon 5

It’s a phrase that every relationship can relate to. We all have happy times but for the most part in our everyday lives, compromise keeps us going. We can’t always have our way and it’s also not right to just let the other person have his or her way all the time so meeting halfway is really important in every relationship whether romantic, among friends or family. There are times when we get really frustrated and we just want to stop talking to the person or have time away from each other because we can’t meet halfway. I guess a little distance and time away from each other is good so both parties can gather their thoughts but not too long. Partners should support each other. I remember the advice my sister gave to her brother-in-law during the wedding. These are not the exact words but the thought is this:

Put each other first before anybody else.

Partners should listen and support each other before anyone else because in the end, they are the ones who will be together for a lifetime. No matter what other people say or whatever advice they give, they’re not the ones who will face the consequences but the person/s concerned. It’s difficult because we’d prefer to run to our comfort zones like hanging out with friends and forgetting about it instead of facing the problem head on. It’s good to listen to advice and weigh them but in the end, you must work things out together. Choose which advice fits your situation and what can make it better, not what is the easiest way out.

Most important is to pray to God for guidance and put Him between your relationship.