Valentine's Day craze

Today, many people are conscious of celebrating Valentine’s Day like everybody else. I have nothing against celebrating V-Day. In fact, I like the idea of allocating a certain day to do something extra special with your loved one especially if both of you have tight and conflicting schedules. A planned date is good but that’s not an excuse to only show love on that specific day. We must continually show our partners that we love them and make them feel loved. Anyway, back on the topic of V-Day, what I’m saying is don’t be pressured because you didn’t receive what most people got on the day of hearts. Believe me, I know it feels exhilarating to receive flowers and chocolates and all those cheesy stuff especially on valentine’s season. There came a time when I no longer received any and my mood plummeted to the depths of the abyss. Expectations and the feeling of being “in” turned my mood sour. I even went as far as making comparisons which is very nasty of me. I really feel sorry for being immature then.

However, I came to learn that extra effort and little celebrations don’t have to fall on a single day. You can always have those cheesy moments and little surprises any time of the year. If you really want it, you can discuss it with your partner (although that kinda kills the surprise factor but some people really need a hint).

If you didn’t get any chocolate or flowers on Valentine’s Day then don’t be bitter towards people who do. If you receive any, be thankful, if you didn’t, don’t let it make you unhappy. If you received something from someone unexpected then be very thankful because that person thought of giving you something no matter how small or insignificant it is to you. Don’t let one day dictate your relationship. Take control and if you want something then ask without getting needy or angry.

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!

1 John 4:19 We love, because He first loved us.

Let us show our love for the people we care about everyday of our lives.

Chocolate pop from a lady co-worker. Thank you, ma'am! :)

Of fears on being in love

“What’s it like to be in love?” May asked.

Lucy’s smile was sad. “It’s the most wonderful and terrible thing that can ever happen to you,” she said simply.

“You know that you’ve found something amazing, and you want to hold on to it forever, and every second after you have it, you fear the moment you might lose it.”

 

        This has been my path every since I started my current relationship. I'm not saying I never feared losing my past boyfriends when we were together but this time it feels different. I'm more scared than I was before and I feel this is more fragile compared to the others. I can totally relate to what Lucy said about "...every second after you have it, you fear the moment you might lose it." I'm torn between simply saying what's on my mind and doing what I want to do and controlling what I say out loud to avoid conflict when the atmosphere is charged with tension. For the most part, I say things before I think and it usually ends in arguments. I am being reminded that I should be sensitive to the people around me, especially those close to me so that I won't unnecessarily hurt their feelings. I also have to lower my pride a notch. After all, pride can't hug me back. Hahaha kidding! A healthy amount of pride is okay (I guess) for self preservation but an unhealthy level of pride sure ruins relationships. If I don't want to lose this relationship (you have no idea...or maybe you do.. on how much I want this to work) then I must adjust, too. I will keep being myself but also be sensitive to his feelings so that we can stay in harmony. Or if I have concerns, I better phrase them properly to avoid misunderstandings that cause conflicts.

Of love and compromise

"It's not always rainbows and butterflies 
It's compromise that moves us along.." - Maroon 5

It’s a phrase that every relationship can relate to. We all have happy times but for the most part in our everyday lives, compromise keeps us going. We can’t always have our way and it’s also not right to just let the other person have his or her way all the time so meeting halfway is really important in every relationship whether romantic, among friends or family. There are times when we get really frustrated and we just want to stop talking to the person or have time away from each other because we can’t meet halfway. I guess a little distance and time away from each other is good so both parties can gather their thoughts but not too long. Partners should support each other. I remember the advice my sister gave to her brother-in-law during the wedding. These are not the exact words but the thought is this:

Put each other first before anybody else.

Partners should listen and support each other before anyone else because in the end, they are the ones who will be together for a lifetime. No matter what other people say or whatever advice they give, they’re not the ones who will face the consequences but the person/s concerned. It’s difficult because we’d prefer to run to our comfort zones like hanging out with friends and forgetting about it instead of facing the problem head on. It’s good to listen to advice and weigh them but in the end, you must work things out together. Choose which advice fits your situation and what can make it better, not what is the easiest way out.

Most important is to pray to God for guidance and put Him between your relationship.

This salt cellar taught me more about life than my friends' advices. XD