Delayed gratification

I suck at delayed gratification. I prefer little rewards for small victories here and there.. But for our current situation, I need to get used to delayed gratification. It’s a great struggle but something I must do in order to keep the relationship and my life from falling apart. I hope I'll survive this everyday ordeal.

Thoughts #2

"I want everyone to leave me alone and I also want someone to come snuggle me and rub my back. Or I don’t want that. I want you to go away and stop talking and I want a hug and I want ice cream sundaes and I never want to eat again. ―Siri Moon"

 

I guess that quote pretty much describes how contrary I am.

Sunbeams, happiness & jealous eyes

        We often misunderstand each other and this causes conflict to both parties. One example would be a person who is proud about his or her happiness. He/she shares their delight and gushes over it to their friends. They animatedly tell their story with genuine happiness and excitement. This is well and good over well-meaning people but to the jealous eyes, this is dangerous to the happy person. Jealous eyes will look at the person in a different light. To them, the happy person is bragging and shoving his/her success or progress up their noses. They can’t stand it and resent the happy person, thinking him/her insensitive.

        I know that we should always be tactful and careful not hurt people but sharing genuine happiness is a good thing. Spreading good vibes is actually contagious and may actually uplift other people’s moods. A ray of sunshine is always welcome unless you have your own happiness issues and resent people whose smiles cast sunbeams.

        This makes me sad because such negativity may bring the happy person down and may join their club of sullen people. Instead of feeling proud, the happy person will shrink back to their hole and instead feel ashamed of his/her good fortune. It may cause guilt on the happy person and feel sad over why the others didn’t have the same good fortune as him/her.

        We can’t please everyone and let’s all keep in mind that those real people who matter will be happy for you no matter what. Let those jealous eyes seethe but don’t let them bring you down. Continue to do your best and be happy! Even if you try to hide it, happiness and success will always radiate from you.

Relationship goal #3

Do interesting activities together!

 

Being an introvert

We introverts are not antisocial. We are just reserved and prefer to be approached first especially in parties or crowded places for fear that we will impose on somebody or they can't relate to what we have to say. But if you'll be nice enough to accommodate us then we can be the most animated storytellers or the warmest person with a touch of shyness.